How to be a player: Introduction
My beginnings of learning how to be a player
Many guys in my youth wanted to learn how to be a player and back then we didn’t have the internet to teach us how to meet and date lots of hot women.
When I was sixteen back in the 1970’s I ordered probably the first book on this subject called: “How To Pick Up Girls” by Eric Webber. I recall ordering this book through the mail and I recall waiting each day for what seemed like several months before that book arrived. I just knew that in no time I would learn how to be a player from that book!
When it did come in the mail, I just knew that my problems with my shyness and meeting girls in my high school would be over. I was going to learn how to be a player or die and I would pay all of the girls back who treated me like a nobody! I waited weeks and weeks before it did come in the mail. When I saw the order had arrived my excitement went through the roof. I grabbed the package and crept to my bedroom and began to read. I just knew then that I was going to learn how to be a player and become a super dater.
Before that package arrived I had been so desperate that I had asked my player father how to be a player and get laid and his best advice was to go up to girls and just talk to them. He said talking is what you learn how to do when your learning how to be a player. Well imagine my disappointment when that was the base advice of the book that I had waited for what seemed like eon’s to arrive stated. My dreams of learning how to be a player went crashing down.
How to be a player meets total disappointment
Eric Webers book stated that in order to meet women it was about going up to women and just talking to them? I had saved my money from my meager $73.84 every two weeks to be told to just go up and talk to women? No! I screamed inside with my mind filled with anguish and disappointment. I wanted to learn how to be a player not a talker!
Now 35 years later I can only say that is actually the sum total of the truth of how to to be a player of women for aspiring guys wanting to learn how to pick up chicks. I had to learn this lesson the hard way after many years of struggling out their in the real life world of night clubs while learning how to be a player.
Well if your going to learn how to be a player let me describe a player to you. The urban dictionary states the following:
“A male who is skilled at manipulating (“playing”) others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex”
How to be a player reveals a devastating truth of dating
Now having mastered the art of being a player and teaching how to be a player, let me say that there are two main key points that any guy trying to master this art of playing lots of women must learn. But first let me state a basic truth or revelation that will shock the whole world of picking up women:
Women do the choosing!
There, I said it. That is the total truth.
You have no idea how many guys trying to learn how to be a player either refuse to accept this or give up at this point! It is almost funny how many guys wanting to learn how to be a player refuse to accept the truth of the game. Even right now you reading my first post on how to be a player are probably in doubt. Read on.
Women do choose whom they will sleep with or open their legs too. I know, I know it’s hard to accept. I had to accept this truth too when I was learning how to be a player.
I know a lot of guys heads have been filled with that nonsense that us men choose whom we want and we just have to go up to her and just get her, or even worse from the pick up artist community the stupidity of one of those scripts has been filed into their heads.
Nothing is further from the truth. Let’s look at this from the light of intelligence and reason and really teach you how to be a player.
How to be a player: 2 vital needs
Anytime you have ever been successful with a woman it was because of the two main points that I know want to share with you:
1. First of all if she likes what she see’s then she will go out with you.
2. Secondly if she likes what she hears when you open your mouth then she will go out with you.
These are the two basic truths of the game that you the aspiring player or student learning how to be a player must master.
What am I saying?
I am stating this from 35 years of learning this game of how to be a player, that when you look good when you step up to a woman then she will more than likely date you or your chances go dramatically up. If you look good and sound good then she will date you. If you don’t look good but you sound good to her ear then she will date you.
I hope so.
Yes unfortunately this game can be about looks! I learned that the hard way as I was learning how to be a player also.
Don’t get discouraged those of you of lesser looks like myself and give up learning how to be a player cause I learned to rule in my game despite not having super good looks.
How to be a player history lesson
When you do grasp the truth while learning how to be a player that women choose whom they will sleep with then you can start to tailor your game or lessons of how to be a player from this important angle and totally simplify the dating game for yourself.
If you go back in time the players of our primitive days were the young bucks who were good hunters.
These guys looked like they could bring home the bacon. This was necessary for the young maidens so that they could be assured that their young would be well fed. Over time this trait has become a instinct for women.
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